I’ve been thinking about the importance of relationship mechanics lately and a few questions popped into my head…
We’ve discovered the biological elements in our atmosphere. We’ve engineered spectacular artificial intelligence. We’re coders, nuclear scientists, physicists, brain surgeons excelling in realms of STEM. We’ve managed to fly from continent to continent. We’ve built skyscrapers. We’ve landed on the moon. We’ve charted the stars. But we still don’t understand our mental landscapes nor the intricate mechanics of relating.
What if we were taught and trained early on by some standardized method / schooling – how to relate to others? If there were pointers or tips that could be interjected into our lives interspersedly (based on the corresponding level of maturity at that point in time), wouldn’t we be more adequately equipped to handle real tests that happen in our lives? On top of being able to write an A+ essay in a composition class, imagine being able to verbally communicate feelings and thoughts to another individual with the same amount of preciseness and resolution…a parent to their child, a teenager to a parent, a student to his peers, an employee to their employer, a husband and wife, brothers & sisters, old friends, new friends, boyfriends & girlfriends. What if we had tactical strategies? What if we knew a formulaic approach to keep a relationship at a mutually beneficial stasis?
Relationships are what we deal with every day of our lives. So why isn’t there more emphasis on the ways we treat each other…the ways we can better ourselves? At what point do we start to cultivate our interpersonal hearts and not just our academic minds?