To all you 20-somethings who think you’ve got your whole lives ahead of you…ready for a wake-up call?
A few guidelines that clinical psychologist Meg Jay has for twentysomethings:
- Forget about having an identity-crisis. Get identity-capital. Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment to who you want to be next. Now’s the time for that cross-country internship. Now’s the time for the start-up you want to try. Explore work and make it count.
- The urban tribe is overrated. Best friends are great at giving rides to the airport, but 20-somethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work. That new piece of capital, that new person to date, almost always comes from outside the inner-circle. New things come from our weakest ties (our friends of friends of friends). Half of new jobs are never posted. So reaching out to your neighbor’s boss is how you get that new job. Opportunities come from outside of your comfort zone.
- The time to start picking your family is now. Grabbing whoever you’re living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook is walking down the aisle is not progress. The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one…that means being as intentional with love as you are with work. Picking your family is about conciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.